Free Will vs. “God’s” Will

  I met with a hospice family recently that exemplified the kind of confusion and disempowerment that many people experience as a result of their childhood religious teachings. The patient wanted to do death with dignity, but because of his dementia, he did not qualify. His wife talked with me about her religious/ethical questions, specifically,…

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Death Doula Training

A few weeks ago I was asked by an aspiring death doula for recommendations about the best training programs.  The poor woman had no idea what she was in for by opening the door to one of my favorite rants. I encounter self-proclaimed death doulas on a regular basis, and when I ask about their…

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Acknowledging Grief and Trauma in The Bible

  At The Conference on Death, Grief and Belief last weekend, one of the presenters — Dr. Jamie Eaddy — gave a brilliant talk about how the violence and trauma in the Old Testament (i.e, Hebrew Bible) is never identified as violent or traumatic. These events are not acknowledged as hurtful, and the pain of…

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How Doctors Die

This article has been around since 2011, but it’s always worth revisiting, and frequently comes up in conversations and in social media posts among  end-of-life professionals.  If you — or someone you know — is looking at a future of endless medical interventions to address life-threatening conditions, please read and consider the excellent advice  shared…

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Leaving Christianity is a Lot Harder than it Looks

by Clint Heacock, PhD   If you are in the process of deconstructing your belief system, and possibly thinking of leaving your Christian faith behind, be aware of one sobering reality: it is potentially far more difficult than you might think, for a variety of reasons. Disentangling oneself from one’s religion can be incredibly difficult and…

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How Christianity is Killing Itself

by Brian Smith www.grief2growth.com     Many years ago, John Shelby Spong wrote a book provocatively titled: “Why Christianity Must Change Or Die”. One might think that title is hyperbolic. But it is? Is Christianity slowly suiciding itself? Increasingly, people are stepping away from religion and church attendance. While the drain in America lags behind…

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Atheists Know Best

Would you be surprised to hear that Atheists know more about The Bible and religous history than most religious folks do? In 2019, the Pew Research Center did a study on which religous grourps know what about religion, and that’s exactly what they found.  You can find the study HERE, and an excerpt below… —————————————–…

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Spiritual Terrorism

by Boyd C. Purcell, Ph.D. From Christianity without Insanity The Stockholm Syndrome In Stockholm, Sweden in 1973, two ex-cons took hostages during an attempted bank robbery. The hostages were held for a week under fear of death, but were shown small acts of kindness like being given food and water and allowed to go to…

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Forgiveness at End-of-Life

Text and Illustration By Lizzy Miles, MA, MSW, LSW  Lizzy is a hospice social worker in Columbus, Ohio and author of Somewhere In Between: The Hokey Pokey, Chocolate Cake and the Shared Death Experience. She is best known for bringing the Death Cafe concept to the United States.   As a hospice social worker, I have been witness…

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